For all of you that have been asking the question, YES, we are taking legal action against the hate site,
and no, I am not going after her because she hurt my feelings.
I am not going to write about it.
I am letting our attorney take care of it.
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…and now a little dinner for the trolls.
1-This is not a mommy blog. My children are a part of my life. I include them in my day to day posts. PERIOD. I am not blogging for them, or about them. This is my blog about me. If you don’t like that and/or you don’t like me, please click that red circle in the top corner of your window.
2- I have four step-children. They belong to a woman that was married to Brandon before I was. They are not my children. I have enough respect for Brandon’s ex to only write about them when we have them for a visit or if I have a cute picture of them I want to share, and that’s only after I have her permission to do so. I am not their mother in any way shape or form. I care about them because they are my husbands children. I do not parent them. I do not raise them. I see them when we go to Utah and when they come here. Brandon pays child-support for them. Their mother/Brandon’s ex reads my blog. She always has. What she allows or doesn’t allow her children to see and read is completely up to her. For instance, they are very conservative church going Utah boys. I doubt they hear their mother drop the F bomb. I doubt their mother discusses sex as openly and honestly as I do with my kids. I am sure when she reads the things I write, she decides if and when it’s okay for her children to get on my blog.
For all of you out there that think I hate my step kids, you should be ashamed of yourself. I have written openly and honestly about the difficulty of a blended family. I have shared multiple times my stress and feelings about it. NEVER once have I said anything here that I haven’t or wouldn’t say to them. I love those four boys and I hope they know it.
For those of you that think I have no boundaries, you have just learned my first one. I will not blog about other people’s children. Their mother knows this, and I hope appreciates it. I am not their mother and I will never pretend to be. They have a fabulous mom already. PERIOD.
3- Being called RACIST. I have been staring at this sentence for too long. I can’t even process this accusation. I am not going to even justify it with a remark.
4- Being old and ugly. Even if I am old and ugly, is it against the law for me to blog? Can only cute people have blogs? About needing to gain weight and call a plastic surgeon…… I think the last time I was attacked by you haters, I was being ripped apart because I had had cosmetic surgery, now you want me to call him again? About needing to gain weight…… If I could control where that weight went it would be great wouldn’t it? One of you suggested I wouldn’t look so old if I had more fat on my face. Should I try eating my cheesecake upside down so it gathers there instead of in the fat roll around my waist? I am just not sure how to do this. But I will get back to you on my attempts.
5- Sex and kids do not mix. This is where things get a little tricky. I blog about my kids from time to time. I love being a mom. I am proud of my kids. I think they are adorable and I love sharing them with you, BUT SOOOO many of you have a problem with the sex talk on the same blog as my children’s faces. Would it make you all feel better if I had a mommy blog about the kids and a REAL LIFE blog about my life? "Sandiuncensored dot com"? Because I am going to talk about sex. If you don’t like hearing about it, because it involves bodily fluids and pleasure, this isn’t the blog for you. If it makes you uncomfortable because you know my kids are reading, just stop reading. This blog is a reflection of my life. If Hunter and Hadley want to read my blog, I am fine with them reading it. The kids that are younger than Hadley DO NOT read this blog and when they are old enough to do so, they will have my permission to read it if they so choose.
6- For those of you that think I am redacting information, or cleaning the house, WRONG! What is here is here. I am not embarrassed about what I have written and I am pissed off that I am sitting here now defending it. (some of the writing is embarrassing, but I am not ashamed of what is written.)
7- About the horrible people that we are….. You know what I am talking about. Yes, we have both cheated in the past. We both have trust issues. We both work on those issues daily. Whether I write about them or not should really only be a concern of ours. NOT YOURS. If you don’t want to read about marital struggles and trust issues, this isn’t the blog for you. If you think I am effed up in the head, please stop reading. For the rest of the world, that knows what I am talking about and appreciates hearing that other people deal with shit sometimes too, you’re welcome.
8- Collecting kids. This will be a post in and of itself because there is no possible way to cover what I want to say about this here and now.
*I know this dinner for the trolls was not as juicy and filling as it could have been, but I hate to cook. It’s not my department. I do the laundry remember. That may be why I am so good at airing the dirty stuff.
**Thank you to all of you that have sent kind and supportive emails offering to help us take Michele’s hate site down. If we need any of you, I will pass your emails to the attorney and they will contact you.