Sharing some shit again…
I woke up yesterday morning to one more comment from my local troll.
A Ladera Resident
Submitted on 2010/05/18 at 10:25pm
Nope, BAP. Nice try. I was just expressing an opinion. Nothing more, nothing less. Excuse me for assuming the "establishment" was a restaurant. My bad;)
And Lora, I wasn't "suggesting" anything. I was voicing my personal opinion. Sandi gossips here about her husband, her children, her mother, her ex, his new wife, her "famous" neighbors who don't fawn all over her when she brings them cupcakes(or was it cookies, I can't remember), her ex- neighbor who reads this blog, the other terrible residents of Utah, The LDS Church(no, I am not a Mormon), the other uncommunity-like, community residents of Ladera Ranch and I won't even go into who knows else. THIS is a public place. It is also a place where things are written and cannot be taken back, which is a whole lot worse than having a discussion in an "establishment" where you think the conversation is only between you and who you are talking to. What favors are you doing "humanity" on your whiney blog, by the way? Is "humanity" a better place because of the things that you write about, or is it only your call to decide what is acceptable and where? I do not read your blog. I only clicked over to see who was so bothered by me. You are pretty negative for someone who is so holier than thou. But thanks for standing up on your pedestal. Don't trip on the way down, sweet woman!
Unapprove | Reply | Quick Edit | Edit | Spam | Trash
In WORDPRESS there is a little feature that allows me to click on the IP address and it shows me all the other comments left by that same person. Imagine my surprise when I clicked that button and all of this popped up! And this is what I've published. I can't imagine how many things I have deleted.
Just scroll down through these, you do not need to read all of her psycho babble a second time.
Community- the good, the bad, and the ugly
A Ladera Resident
Submitted on 2010/05/18 at 2:06pm
I wish that you had mentioned the "business" owner who decided it was his business to go back and gossip to you. It is truly not his place to eavesdrop on what people discuss while they are patronizing his establishment. It is nobody else's business what is being discussed when two people are having a personal conversation. Those women are entitled to have an opinion about you and how you have chosen to live your life. You put it out there. What? You think that it shouldn't be discussed? Then why do you write about it? Why do you label it with your actual name, personal info and names of all of your family members? Only those who think you are fabulous can talk about you? You might be able to control what is said about you on your blog, but telescoping that out into the community is simply ridiculous, Sandi.
Why not give the business owner a "plug" ? Knowing that people cannot speak freely in his place of business is one sure way of causing people to stay away. Personally, the fact that HE felt the need to become so involved makes me very suspicious about HIS particular motives. Like others here have said, why did he feel the need to come report back to you? Talk about stirring the pot! Or trying to get into a woman's "good graces". Either way, he should just mind his own business and keep his mouth closed. He "invites" people into his restaurant and then reprimands them when they discuss something that he doesn't like. Pathetic.
Unapprove | Reply | Quick Edit | Edit | Spam | Trash
Community- the good, the bad, and the ugly
Molly
Submitted on 2010/03/04 at 1:54pm
I'm sorry, I thought this post was about Sailor, not all of the other children in your home.
And Alli, you pray for an earthquake "every damn day" and I am the "tard"? Have you watched the news lately?
Unapprove | Reply | Quick Edit | Edit | Spam | Trash
Molly
Submitted on 2010/03/03 at 8:54pm
I pray that there isn't an earthquake while that sweet baby is asleep in her crib. The thought of those "staged" bottles smashing down on her head is absolutely terrifying.
Unapprove | Reply | Quick Edit | Edit | Spam | Trash
Amused, but in a sad way.
Submitted on 2009/12/16 at 2:06pm
What is up with “Courtney”???? She left that same, exact message on CL’s site!!!!!!! Some friend she is to you, Sandi! Looks like one of your “friends” is trying to stir up trouble.
Unapprove | Reply | Quick Edit | Edit | Spam | Trash
Amused, but in a sad way.
Submitted on 2009/12/16 at 12:08am
I didn’t figure you would post my last comment. No harm, no foul. Why is it that out of 33 comments, only 8 link back to other real sites?
Unapprove | Reply | Quick Edit | Edit | Spam | Trash
Kimberly
Submitted on 2009/12/02 at 4:26pm
You have taught your son to put too much emphasis on the “stuff”. The “best” schools, the best “things”, etc. You have spoiled him, rotten, and now you are complaining because he is beginning to “stink”. Let him do things his way. No more money, no more stuff, no more paid bills. He has absolutely no motivation to do anything in life. What a sad, sad thing for him. It sounds like you tried to mold him into who you wanted him be. And what the heck is wrong with being a plumber if that is what he ultimately wants to do???? How can you put any job down and make it sound as if it’s not “good enough” for your child? If he wants to be a garbage man and pick up people’s trash all day, that should be OKAY. Maybe that is why he is so burnt-out. From always having to perform. Your children are individuals, not circus animals. Stop expecting them to do tricks to make you look better.
I am sure that you will become defensive about what I have written, but reality does hurt. In order to change things, you must face them first. From what I have read on your blog, you do not strike me as the type of person who likes to be told what to do, right or wrong. You have a lot of lives to worry about. Start focusing on each one as a person in their own right. And please do not take on any more children. With each one, someone else gets lost in the shuffle and that is not fair for ANY of them. There is a reason that the size of your family is not the norm. Two parents cannot possibly give that many children exactly what they need, emotionally as individuals. Bronson is a product of your lifestyle.
Unapprove | Reply | Quick Edit | Edit | Spam | Trash
Dawn
Submitted on 2009/10/29 at 1:58pm
Why is it that if someone disagrees with you, that makes them a “hater”? That is certainly a very quick way for you to put someone on the defense. People do not learn from those who constantly agree with them. They learn from those who disagree. Maybe there is a lesson in that for you?
Personally, I feel that we have our children for such a short period of time, that I would never consider sending any of mine away until college. Boarding school is not the only answer, but it does seem to be your only answer. I am sad for what you are missing out on, but sadder for what your children are missing out on. I agree with your husband.
Oh yes. Please try to honor each one of your children for the gifts that they each possess. YOUR failings will not necessarily be their failings. YOUR talents, not their talents. YOUR shortcomings, not their shortcomings. Allow them to be individuals. Academics are important, but not everyone will excel in them. If one of your children decides that smearing paint all over a canvas like Jackson Pollack did is his or her way to happiness, does that make them any less of a success?
I promise you. I am not what you referred to as a “hater”. I only disagree with what you have said. It is called free thinking.
Unapprove | Reply | Quick Edit | Edit | Spam | Trash
I am a high school drop out and other lengthy explanations of why I am such a freak.
D
Submitted on 2009/10/02 at 4:29pm
Sandi,
I agree with much of what Jeanne says. If all you want from this blog are high-fives and fist-bumps, you should privatize it only to individuals who can do that for you. Otherwise, you are going to find that some people disagree with what you have to say. That is life. Obviously, your life is somewhat controversial. People might be able to learn something from your mistakes, but to expect that others might not question your choices is ludicrous.
You did not make it clear that traveling to Utah was a vacation, as opposed to a “hand-off” trip for visitation. Thank goodness your kids and your husband’s kids can see their perspective parents whenever they want to. And how convenient it must be to just pop your children onto an airplane without even having an adult ever having to leave the house.
But herein lies the question. You say that “If mama ain’t happy, then nobody’s happy.” What exactly does that entail? Does it mean that if you meet someone else who sweeps you off of your feet, then you should be able to leave another marriage to make yourself happy? Assuming that you were not in a “good place” during your first marriage, what did that do to your children? Have you only been in a “happy, stable” marriage for the past four years, and if so, does that mean that for most of their lives, your children were exposed to unhappy? As Jeanne understood, I was not saying anything about neglecting yourself once you become a parent, what I was saying is that your children’s need supersede your own. As the adult, YOU HAVE ALL OF THE CHOICES. The children must just tag along for the ride. If you have a whim, then your children must also follow that whim. If you think that going to Utah for a family vacation is a wonderful idea, then the kids must just go along with that. They do not get to protest and say that they don’t want to leave the security of their familiar surroundings to stay in a hotel room while being put on a totally different schedule. Sandi, you sound like a smart woman. You have a bunch of children who have special needs. The last thing in the world that you should ever do is disrupt their schedules. If you choose to do so, havoc will ensue, as it did. And like Jeanne said, it sounds like chaos!
Reading your blog doesn’t stress me out, so I will sometimes return, but thank you for your permission to opt out!
I do wish you well with your family. Your children are beautiful. And please believe me when I say that you are as young now, as you ever will be…Enjoy it while you ARE young, and not looking back wishing that you were.
Unapprove | Reply | Quick Edit | Edit | Spam | Trash
D
Submitted on 2009/10/01 at 1:57pm
I must agree with Jeanne on this. I felt completely stressed out just reading your post, but it was not because I felt sorry for what you went through. You are the adult who created this situation. Your CHILDREN are paying the price for your crappy choices. You had an affair and instead of trying to keep your family together, you decided to run off with the married man who you slept with. Did any of your umpteen children have a say in how you disrupted their lives???
Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Get some serious therapy, if you aren’t already, and PLEASE…DO NOT BRING ANY MORE CHILDREN INTO THIS MESS.(although it sounds like you will be any day now) And a TV show?????? Are you seriously insane? You have a bunch of children who crave structure in their days and you are going to bring a television crew into your home????? Please say that isn’t true!
Sandi, you need to do what is best for those babies, not what is best for yourself. You aren’t the one who matters, once you have children. They are. It’s all about them, so suck it up, and do the best you can with your mish-mosh of a family.(husbands here, wives there, kids everywhere…)
Best of luck.
Unapprove | Reply | Quick Edit | Edit | Spam | Trash