For all of you that have been asking the question, YES, we are taking legal action against the hate site,
and no, I am not going after her because she hurt my feelings.
I am not going to write about it.
I am letting our attorney take care of it.
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…and now a little dinner for the trolls.
1-This is not a mommy blog. My children are a part of my life. I include them in my day to day posts. PERIOD. I am not blogging for them, or about them. This is my blog about me. If you don’t like that and/or you don’t like me, please click that red circle in the top corner of your window.
2- I have four step-children. They belong to a woman that was married to Brandon before I was. They are not my children. I have enough respect for Brandon’s ex to only write about them when we have them for a visit or if I have a cute picture of them I want to share, and that’s only after I have her permission to do so. I am not their mother in any way shape or form. I care about them because they are my husbands children. I do not parent them. I do not raise them. I see them when we go to Utah and when they come here. Brandon pays child-support for them. Their mother/Brandon’s ex reads my blog. She always has. What she allows or doesn’t allow her children to see and read is completely up to her. For instance, they are very conservative church going Utah boys. I doubt they hear their mother drop the F bomb. I doubt their mother discusses sex as openly and honestly as I do with my kids. I am sure when she reads the things I write, she decides if and when it’s okay for her children to get on my blog.
For all of you out there that think I hate my step kids, you should be ashamed of yourself. I have written openly and honestly about the difficulty of a blended family. I have shared multiple times my stress and feelings about it. NEVER once have I said anything here that I haven’t or wouldn’t say to them. I love those four boys and I hope they know it.
For those of you that think I have no boundaries, you have just learned my first one. I will not blog about other people’s children. Their mother knows this, and I hope appreciates it. I am not their mother and I will never pretend to be. They have a fabulous mom already. PERIOD.
3- Being called RACIST. I have been staring at this sentence for too long. I can’t even process this accusation. I am not going to even justify it with a remark.
4- Being old and ugly. Even if I am old and ugly, is it against the law for me to blog? Can only cute people have blogs? About needing to gain weight and call a plastic surgeon…… I think the last time I was attacked by you haters, I was being ripped apart because I had had cosmetic surgery, now you want me to call him again? About needing to gain weight…… If I could control where that weight went it would be great wouldn’t it? One of you suggested I wouldn’t look so old if I had more fat on my face. Should I try eating my cheesecake upside down so it gathers there instead of in the fat roll around my waist? I am just not sure how to do this. But I will get back to you on my attempts.
5- Sex and kids do not mix. This is where things get a little tricky. I blog about my kids from time to time. I love being a mom. I am proud of my kids. I think they are adorable and I love sharing them with you, BUT SOOOO many of you have a problem with the sex talk on the same blog as my children’s faces. Would it make you all feel better if I had a mommy blog about the kids and a REAL LIFE blog about my life? "Sandiuncensored dot com"? Because I am going to talk about sex. If you don’t like hearing about it, because it involves bodily fluids and pleasure, this isn’t the blog for you. If it makes you uncomfortable because you know my kids are reading, just stop reading. This blog is a reflection of my life. If Hunter and Hadley want to read my blog, I am fine with them reading it. The kids that are younger than Hadley DO NOT read this blog and when they are old enough to do so, they will have my permission to read it if they so choose.
6- For those of you that think I am redacting information, or cleaning the house, WRONG! What is here is here. I am not embarrassed about what I have written and I am pissed off that I am sitting here now defending it. (some of the writing is embarrassing, but I am not ashamed of what is written.)
7- About the horrible people that we are….. You know what I am talking about. Yes, we have both cheated in the past. We both have trust issues. We both work on those issues daily. Whether I write about them or not should really only be a concern of ours. NOT YOURS. If you don’t want to read about marital struggles and trust issues, this isn’t the blog for you. If you think I am effed up in the head, please stop reading. For the rest of the world, that knows what I am talking about and appreciates hearing that other people deal with shit sometimes too, you’re welcome.
8- Collecting kids. This will be a post in and of itself because there is no possible way to cover what I want to say about this here and now.
*I know this dinner for the trolls was not as juicy and filling as it could have been, but I hate to cook. It’s not my department. I do the laundry remember. That may be why I am so good at airing the dirty stuff.
**Thank you to all of you that have sent kind and supportive emails offering to help us take Michele’s hate site down. If we need any of you, I will pass your emails to the attorney and they will contact you.
holy cow there is a lot of shit going on here! wish i would have read all this earlier!! i am so sorry that she put you through this!
i LOVE reading your blog!! on my bloglist you are on the top, i save your blog up! when i read through all the others i get all excited and happy bc i get to open your blog next and read about the real life shit that everyone goes through.. well ok i dont have kids yet but i might one day and then i will probably enjoy your blog even more!!
just keep on doing what you are doing. some ppl are just f’ed up and the word sex embarasses them so much that they cant handle it!!
i grew up in w wonderful family and sex was a topic we would talk about openly. thats the way to do it!
sending my love over there!! please send some sun over here. its my birthday and its raining
I <3 you, babe.
The thing about laundry made me laugh. And smile. When we were in California and you took the baby's laundry that he had COMPLETELY run through for all his barfing and did it while we were at Disneyland? One of the kindest things anyone has ever done for me.
Did I mention I suck at laundry???
Now get your ass out here already so I can see your gorgeous face and hug you.
I was shocked when I popped over to the hate site. I have never seen so many vicious and horrible comments. I won’t be going back there.
I love your blog. I love that you are honest about your issues with your marriage and with trust. I love that you are open about sex. And I love seeing and hearing about your kids.
Whoever doesn’t love it…. should stop reading.
Great post Sandi…I respect you both so much for adopting all these children that may not have had such a wonderful home & parents to call their own. Bravo to you!
Way to go, Sandi!! I hope you don’t give up the fight because what Michelle McBee does is wrong on so many levels. And Michelle McBee does it all under the guise of “helping the children” what a bunch of crap. She hurts the children by hurting the very people those children love — their parents.
Mrs. Alan McBee is over at her website trying to spin this — now she’s talking about her charities and how she’s gonna give “a portion” of her revenue to charity — what a laugh. Anybody who is as nasty and vile as she is isn’t giving any money to anybody. So sad.
Wow Sandi, I’m really sorry this happened to you. There are losers and haters in all areas of life… even in the blogosphere, apparently. I haven’t seen this hate site you speak of, but if it’s like you said it was I say, give ‘er hell!
Oh, Sandi! I’m truly sorry that there are so many people out there harassing you over all these things! Why can’t everyone just love you and your blog like I do and appreciate you for who you are?
Hang in there, woman, you’ll come out on top when the dust finally settles and the a winner is declared! I’m rootin’ for ya!
You know Sandi, until your other post I had no idea that the other site existed. I googled it and the first thing I found is that she out a virus in a site so people would ruin their computers by checking her out. Stupid me, I got around that and went ahead to her real site. I am sorry I did!! I love your blog, your kids, your life, and reading about it all is great, but the things I found there would have changed my mind about blogging had I seen that one first. I don’t know why it makes people feel good to spout off about other people trying to make them feel bad. Makes me feel like I am in Jr High all over again. Don’t change because all us people who have graduated Jr High love the way you write!!
PS.. I have been waiting for Pickle to contact me about terrorizing the hotel!!
Great post Sandi! I’m sure it will all work out. good luck!
Maybe you should start “monetizing the hate” like Dooce? That’s actually how I discovered your site. I googled that Michelle lady and your blog was one of the links. I seriously think this person has a mental illness. What sane person writes so much hate “mail”?
It amazes me that there are “adults” who think they can dictate what a blogger posts. Huh? Do they even know the meaning of a blog and how it works?
I am so glad to hear you staying strong and towing a tough line. I respect you for many, many things, but your backbone is one of the biggest.
If you need me, you know where to find me.
I found you because of the CL post. I read her blog from time to time to find new blogs for me to read.
I spent a few days last week reading your archives. I love your blog and as soon as I am done reading the archives you will go into my reader as a daily read.
I have a blog but I wouldn’t call myself much of a blogger. Some where along the way I started censoring myself to the point that I haven’t blogged in almost a month because what I want to say will probably piss someone off. I spent this weekend thinking about your blog and mine and kicking myself for losing me because of other people.
I think a reverse make over is called for so I can return to being the me that I know. Thank you for that. (Sorry I kind of hijacked your comments)
You should NOT have to defend your blog! The key word is YOUR! Your thoughts, your life, your words. You have a tremendous amount of support and love here on the internet. We’ve got your back, girl
Please please let me know if I can help in any way!
Much love,
Olivia
I got the same virus Trina. That lady is messed up in the head. Sandi I’m glad your not going to take it in the ass and your defending yourself. I think everyone that knows you or reads you faithfully knows everything in this post because you have said it all before. About Brandons kids, you love this man to the moon and I can’t imagine you hating something that is a part of him. I wish you would’ve “collected” me when I was a kid.
I also found your link through an unfortunate visit to that hate site. You have found another fan in all of this. I have a hard time stomaching people who live and breathe hate and spew venom. People like that only speak to hear themselves talk. I know I will not return to her site.
Well said – I love how you just jump in and take care of business. Way to go.
SO sad that you felt you needed to justify yourself.
You’re a strong woman Sandi, don’t let this get you down. x
….”WHAT YOU SEE IS WHAT YOU GET”….
That is the best way I can decribe you, your family, your life, your BLOG & why I love ya so much…no need to wonder or play a guessing game. Too bad some think they need to make a mountain out of a mole hill that doesn’t even exist.
I also happened upon this site out of curiousity because of the CL post. I spent nearly all of Friday reading old posts and getting to know your children. I find you and your family fascinating. So although there are nasty people saying bad things about you, think of all of the new readers you gained!
lmao! eating cheesecake upside down! ohmigod!
i love reading your blog b/c you present views that i don’t have (mainly b/c i have no kids) in a refreshing manner. i love your wonderfully expressive language. go sandi!
I never knew about the other site until you mentioned it, and when I checked it out…holy cow…I couldn’t believe that an adult actually put that site up. Despicable. I’m with you…it’s total internet bullying. I hope you get some legal satisfaction.
Way to go, Sandi! I’m delighted someone is going to take her on. The vileness she spews towards others is pathetic. I thought she would have slithered away months ago when her info was first outed, but I think her lame legal threats muzzled others who were talking about her.
For anyone looking for information on her, her real full name is Michele Yoakum Rebeiro McBee. She’s been written about pretty extensively at
http://thebitchsessions.wordpress.com. Make sure to read the comments, that’s where it gets really interesting. http://theartofthetakedown.blogspot.com also has some interesting Chicken Liver posts.
Sorry for rambling so much, but it’s so good to see someone finally stand up to that bully.
Jees-sus. Life is too short for a blog that bitches hateful things about people.
I wish you didn’t have to put up with this @#$%^& Sandi. I’m glad you have an attorney to deal with it for you.
Hang in there.
xo
Sorry about the crap you are having to deal with! Love you and your blog!!!
Sandi, I love your blog and you and your family!
God bless you honey. I’m so glad you are able to get a lawyer to go after this woman. Hang in there dearie!!
Hey, hope you guys get through it. Sucks that the world is full of malicious haters.
I love your blog, and seeing the pics of your chidlets.
I actually just found your blog by seeing all of the hate on Dooce’s site from this woman, did a search for her (not out of interest for her but to see if other people have hate mail from her) and there you were on the search results. I have already added you to my feeds and look forward to your posts! I don’t know what makes people think they have the right to spew such hate on someone’s personal blog! Good for you and your family for taking action against her.
Sandi,
First time commenter here. *
I know some of your commenters will froth then jump all over me for my following statement (just a bit of hyperbole, I know y’all don’t froth at the mouth): I do not agree with all your decisions regarding your blog. And, at the same time, there are posts that I do love to bits. You know what, though, that’s my opinion.
Now, to the heart of the matter, I’ve read both sites (this one and PoP), apples to zucchini, over the weekend (skimming comments as I only have so much time). Have some of the posts or comments crossed a line? Are some of them catty? Are some of them just plain mean and uncalled for? Yes, in my opinion.
Having your life examined under a microscope with every detail of a post pulled apart cannot be fun. Not liking what is being said is not a reason to curtail someone else from exerecising their first amendment rights. As much as you dislike what they are saying, they do have a right to say it. Now, if they said Sandi is a two-headed monster, covered in purple spots with green fangs that pole dances for chump change and offered that as fact, then I believe you have recourse. (Of course, an attorney might disagree – my only legal knowledge comes from Law & Order…so y’all see how qualified I am.)
Your opinions have equal footing. You both have the right to them. You both have the right to share them. You do not have to like their opinions and they do not have to like yours or what you choose to blog. And, as you’ve pointed out, if you don’t like it don’t read it. That sage advice works both ways.
No one knows the ins and outs of your life save you and your family. It is good that you have fierce friends willing to step into the fray to correct what they see as wrongs. Clearly, there are people at PoP that feel much the same way about Chicken Liver.
Keep calm y’all, I don’t think you will like this next bit. When furious, we don’t always have the ability to censor ourselves. And, clearly, censoring yourself is not something that you wish to do on your blog. That’s fair. It’s your blog. I do think you have crossed a line involving innocent people. What do Chickenliver’s siblings have to do with any of this? What purpose does it serve in outing them? Your argument is with Chickenliver. It should start and end with her. It does not involve her siblings.
Perhaps I have a clear perspective of this because I am removed from it. It is not my family and my life being picked apart. Nor do I know you on any level, so I am more able to be objective.
I believe you love your children and that they love you. I think you and your husband are rare amongst people, willing to take on such a large family. Even more rare, you are willing to take on children with a variety of challenges without knowing what they are. You clearly do the best that you can with all of them, giving all your children opportunities they might not have had elsewhere. I commend you for that.
I’m sorry for the long, wheezing, rambling comment high-jacking post. I tried to be clear and concise to make my point. In two words: EPIC FAIL. I expect y’all to spew vitrolic venom my way, the flood gates are open.
We cool.
*I realize all of y’all won’t get my sense of humor, I do hope you try.
I’ve been reading your blog for about two months (Loralee raved about it) and I am shocked at the behavior you’ve described from other “readers” (and I use that term very loosely).
I appreciate what you write, and how open you are about your life. There are parts I can relate to, and parts I can’t, but I think you’re fascinating and I always feel happy when I see an update in my Google Reader.
I’m heartbroken that people think it’s okay to treat others this way. Good luck with the pending legal action. I hope you are generously rewarded for what you’ve had to go through.
Love this blog, and cannot figure out for the life of me why mommyblog hater sites exist. It’s so like junior high.
I guess some of us get over junior high, and some just don’t. If you go back in the archives on that site you will find the “radio show”, where Michele actually talks about a long ago episode from her teen years that she can’t seem to let go.
Bitter people suck.
Thank you for being honest. Thank you for being a giver, not a taker. Thank you for sharing with all of us. steve
In my opinion (from what I read), Sandi, you are healthily self-aware, a good mother, loving wife, and an absolutely gorgeous woman. Pish-posh on anyone who thinks differently. I wish I could be your friend in person.
Love your blog! If I didn’t, I wouldn’t read it; simple solution.
Sandi, all I’m gonna say is that I love you. I know where your hear is from what you’ve shared here and emails – and I’m so damn glad you’re standing up for yourself. I thought about commenting on some/most of the points you made, but decided my first sentence says it all.
Keep doing what you do – it’s who you are, and you’re a wonderful (HUMAN, IMPERFECT) person. Fuck the rest of the world if they don’t like it.
Maybe if more bloggers (ahem, I might mean me) were as able to be as honest as you, there would be less drama in the blogosphere.
So… (((hugs))) and you have my email, I’ll do whatever I can to help you with whatever it is you need to do.
Uhm… sorry, got worked up. Second sentence should read I know where your *heart* is, not I know where your *hear* is. Blame it on the blonde.
I have not seen the other blog, all I have to say about it is….IF YOU HAVE TIME TO BLOG ABOUT SOMEONE ELSE’S BLOG AND SPEW HATE GET AN EFFING LIFE!!!! Hope all is well Sandi and kiss your beautiful kids.
In response to KC’s comments.
I agree if you don’t like the blog, don’t read it. BUT most blogs are about family, friends, children, everyday life. Most bloggers write about themselves and most do it with full disclosure of who they are, they don’t hide behind a computer screen. They post pictures of their children and share information that some may deem as “too much information” yet it is their blog, their right to say and do pretty much what they want. I get that. I respect that.
I read a lot of blogs, some interest me more than others for their content, some make me laugh out loud and some I like just for their food recipes.
What Mrs. Michelle(alan)McBee does is hide behind her screen and point out what she has determined to be the flaws of other bloggers whether it be with their parenting skills or just their CHILDREN in general. She has nothing news worthy or nice to say about anybody. Whats worse is that she hurts the very people she claims to care about and that is the children. And that my friends is where Michelle Alan McBee crosses the line. Children don’t have a voice in what is being written about them by some stranger, but their parents do. Tell me-what parent isn’t going to protect their innocent child/children to her mud slinging? I personally commend Dooce for putting up with Mrs Michelle(Alan)McBees crazy comments for as long as she did with out so much of an ounce of retaliation. I wouldn’t be so nice.
IF she wants to waste her energy telling the world what a lousy person Dooce have at it. Anybody with any critical thinking skills at all knows that her jealousy is at the pit of her written rages. But Michelle McBee doesn’t stop at her jealousy towards Dooce or Pioneer Woman or whichever A-list blogger she’s hell bent on raging against, she drags in the their husbands and CHILDREN.
Correct me if I’m wrong but I doubt very much that either Sandy or Brandon are suing Michelle McBee because they’re after some windfall. We all know that ain’t gonna happen. Sometimes you’ve just got to take a stand and do what is right. And IMHO what they’re doing is right and just.
They’re protecting their children and family unit. Michelle McBee is all about destroying any family she can — for what reason? Who REALLY knows except she can’t be a happy person. Anybody with that much rage just isn’t happy. Period.
GO TEAM SANDI AND BRANDON!!!!
Hi there first off.. ((( BIG HUGS ))) and also a “thank you!!”. The hugs are for the crap you’ve dealt with from “haters” or people who have to tear other people down in order to make themselves feel superior. The “thank you” is for being real.. in spite of the “haters” out there. Hey, we can’t please all of the people all of the time, right? And besides who would even want to try. You’re a wonderful person, a wonderful wife and a wonderful mother. You know it and your family knows it and THAT my friend is all that really matters. I am just lucky you choose to share your life. Your life as a woman with flaws and all. (Being perfect would be rather boring anyway!!). As far as sharing stuff about family life, sex, life fears and struggles. That IS life. Life is more than being just “one person” it’s about living. There’s more to being a good mom than being JUST A MOM. We woman have so much more to offer. Let’s feel free to do it. Some people act as though women who become mother’s don’t have the right to talk about sex anymore. Anyway, I know I’m rambling but I wanted to stop by and let you know I think you’re amazing. I think you’re HUMAN like the rest of us.. and I think you’re strong to share that. A lot of people like to hide behind a fake “perfection” and the thing is.. they don’t realize.. we all see behind it and they’re the ones who end up looking bad. They may FEEL superior but we know that they’re not.
Lots of love and hugs to you and yours! XO
Sweetie, if I looked like you and had as much mindblowing sex as you do, I’d be telling and showing anyone who’d listen.
Your blog, your freedom of speech. Screw the haters.
ChickenLiver is a mystery to me. I don’t get the time and energy involved into blogging about how much I hate other bloggers. I’m sorry her vitriol has landed on your doorstep, but in a way I’m also glad because I’d never have found your blog without Michelle having aimed her poison pen at you.
Your life sounds crazy and amazing. You’re a beautiful soul, Sandi. Keep your chin up.
I could ramble and go off (on Michele)but its a waste of my energy….You know I get you, I love you and that until anyone has walked a mile in your shoes, shut the hell up
I hope you are having a fabulous day dahling!!
You have got to be fucking kidding me. How did I miss this miscreant and the shit she’s stirring up? You’re totally gorgeous with a heart as big as Texas and are the most protective momma bear I’ve ever come across. WTF? You’ve got to email me or call me and fill me in. And, yeah, I could work in a trip to Orange Co. for court…
Hi Sandi,
I have newly discovered your blog because of the CL issue. I couldn’t even tell you how I first happened upon her site, but I was shocked by what a bully she is. I hope you and Brandon are successful and are able to put an end to her hurtful, hateful website. NO MORE BULLIES.
I’ve read both blogs and read all the crap thats going on and honestly, why do you care what someone else thinks or says about you?
The whole thing plays out like you’re all back in elementary school.
You don’t like each other, you’ve both said things the other doesn’t agree with nor like, deal with it, put it behind you and move on.
I think “outing” her, posting her real name and especially her relatives names actually makes YOU look really really bad and very petty, like you’re sinking to extremeley low lows. Her relatives haven’t said anything about you so why involve them?
Honestly perhaps it’s time everyone started their acting their age and getting the hell over the fact that there ARE people out there who WON’T and DON’T like you, nor agree with things you say and WILL call you out on it. You have a blog in the public domain, expect people not to like you, to leave bad comments, call you out on your opinions, don’t like it, make your blog private. Threatening and actioning legal action…..sorry but it’s such an American thing to do, someone annoys you? Sue their ass off.
However — most of us already know that Poops on Peeps aka Chiken Liver is Michelle. Sandi isn’t giving any information that hasn’t already been outed by several of Michelle’s other victims.