There must be a certain high or a rush that I don’t know about when you tear somebody down while remaining anonymous or hiding behind your computer screen.
There is a disgusting site that many bloggers know about. I hate to even link it here because all it does is generate more traffic over there, fueling her ad revenue, and making it profitable for her to HATE on other human beings.
I don’t have very many nice things to say about this woman, so I won’t say anything. But I have been blessed with fabulous friends in high places that have helped me find her true identity.
This week I was the star of her post. KID COLLECTING she titled it. She wrote about how dysfunctional I was. What a terrible home for all my children I am providing. How horrible it is that I placed a child for adoption. That I don’t parent my step-children therefore I hate them. and why on gods green earth MUST I have a nanny if I am a stay at home mom. Then, she allows her readers to jump all over me and HATE HATE HATE. This all done under the premise that she is "protecting" my children from "over-sharing" on the internet.
I think she should be more concerned about HER children finding out that she spends her time on the internet ripping other human beings to shreds. Raise your hand if you think that’s better than posting pictures and sharing your children’s real names.
That’s what I thought.
She uses HATE and intimidation to try to get people to conform to her way of thinking. Is that so different from putting on a white sheet for anonymity and attacking innocent people because they are different?
I am not going to allow all of you to rip her a new one and attack her here because I would be doing the same thing she is doing.
So I am going to tell you what I know about her and maybe you can all pass this information around. (I have a lot more info but for now, this will suffice.)
Our attorney has been given this information and is going after her. I refuse to sit back and take her any longer. Her post is full of malice and defamation of character. She is welcome to her opinion. She is not welcome to publicly state her opinion as fact. That my friends is libel.
Chicken Liver is Michele Mcbee.
She also goes by Meshell or Shell.
She lives in Elk Grove, California (a short road trip away for me.) I wonder if her tune will change when I show up on her doorstep with my PI and attorney.
She has two sisters Marlene and Marsha they both live in CA too.
She has multiple names, maybe she has been married multiple times I am not sure.
Michele Rebeiro Yoakum Mcbee
She has a few emails you can reach her at
shellybien@comcast.net
parislights@gmail.com
Mintcookie@gmail.com
If she wants to talk shit about people, I think it’s important that she does it with her name behind it so her family knows what she is doing. What she is doing borders on a HATE CRIME. By bullying, harassing, verbally abusing and insulting she is walking a fine line between her opinion and a hate crime. Let’s make damn sure HER kids know what she spends HER time doing on the internet. I hope to hell when they google her name they find this site and learn who their real mama is. She is a hater! She spends 24/7 hating on bloggers, and typically targets successful mommy bloggers. WHY?
I hope she feels good about herself when she goes to sleep at night.
For all of my regular readers. I am sorry to interrupt my regular program to bring such TRASH to this place. I will resume my normal writing tomorrow.
For all of you visitors from Michelle’s site. Go worry about your own shit. Stop worrying about mine! And for the love of GOD, if you don’t like me, get the fuck off my blog!
*sorry for the harsh language
Wow. She really does this? WTF. You so do NOT need this!
I LOVE YOU!!!!
Wow. That sucks. I don’t really even know what to say! Crazy! WOW! Sorry to hear that someone made you sad.
Wow…I cant believe someone would be so mean. It’s one thing to not agree with how someone is living their life but if that’s the case then just mind your own damn business and it’s another to spread hate.
Sorry she’s hating on you & your family. I love your blog
I’m so sorry – I read that post and it is appalling that she would spew hate like that.
Woa! That really sucks. I hope your lawyer gets her good!
Could you post a picture of Michelle Mcbee because I would love to see what a piece of chicken shit looks like.
I hope you do go after her because that blog should not be allowed.
Ugh! I’ve heard of her through other blogs and her site is just plain toxic. I’m sorry to see that she’s now picking on you — that makes me angry!! I think you’re just about one of the most caring, HONEST, and generous people on the internet. It’s a pity that others, like Michelle, take that and spew venom all over it.
I know nothing I can say will help how awful you must feel about this situation, but please know that she (and her “peeps”) are only a teeny tiny portion of this crazy online world. You are well loved and admired by many many more people. You do far more GOOD than she does BAD.
I’m keeping you in my thoughts.
Hugs,
Olivia
I am sorry that this is going on. Karma will get to her.
Just did the password recovery linked account test thingy for her paris lights email, and it sent a recovery form to *****@comcast.com, so I am sure those are her emails, I won’t do any sort of hacking or stealing her password, because i don’t want to sink down to her level, those ARE her emails though, they’re linked, simple test, works every time.
bleah….what a horrible person. all anyone has to do is read a couple of your posts or look at the joy in the faces of your children and know you are not doing ANYTHING wrong…
I know in the past you’ve said because of hurtful things, you might just stop blogging. Please, please don’t stop writing because of this person.
There are those of us who ADORE your writing (and pictures!) and envy the way you live your life, love your family and still somehow find the time to look amazing!! Damn woman, you’ve got it together!!
Dooce publicized her today too.
Lunch?
I think we both need it! : )
24-Call me in the morning. We have both had a stellar week huh?
Seriously who the hell has time for this shit!!!!!! She needs a hobby and its not going to be blogging!!!!!!!!!!! You go Sandy!!!
It’s Elk Grove not Oak Grove and there’s only one “l” in her name.
Michele is a mess and her husband is a disappointment. They just sold their house at a serious loss and it looks like you’re looking at real estate? Therein lies the rub.
Happy women upset her. Happy women with enough money to do things and go places upset her the most.
Read more here:
http://thebitchsessions.wordpress.com/2009/06/25/saving-the-children-one-chicken-at-a-time/#comments
http://artofthetakedown.blogspot.com/?zx=2581b25be8b84a3d
I should add, happy women with FLAT TUMMIES and enough money to do things and go places drive her around the bend. That (your tummy) was the straw that broke the angry woman’s back.
As you may have guessed, Michele is obese and (despite currently pretending to be dieting and working out regularly) most likely staying that way.
I am sorry, you were another victim of Michele’s abuse and hatred.
This is her picture I found online. She has uploaded it here
http://www.mylife.com/shellybien
That’s insane! So sorry you had to go through that BS. You don’t deserve that at all!
Jealousy is a horrible trait and if she’s going after other Mother’s is it because she’s jealous of how happy these mothers are and how they come across?
Hope she gets the Karma Bite on the Bum very soon.
How about writing letters to the companies that are advertising on her blog and asking why they support such behavior?
I got an email from CL and had no idea what was up so I came to find out.
I love you. I have your back. You know this.
Babe, I do not think this is a wise course of action to publish her info online.
I know that is my opinion and boundary and I’m not telling you what to do, I wouldn’t do that. But I wouldn’t be a friend if I didn’t tell you my opinion that I think this is just going to be more trouble and energy than it is worth and I know we are friend no matter what.
I love you.
Call me?
I love the end of you post… [chuckle] Get the phuck off my blog!
I went and read the post, and all the comments that go with it… to sum it up? What a bitch. Look, everyone is entitled to their opinion. You share your life on the internet, which puts you out there for people to “judge”. But seriously? That was just an outright attack, loosely based on single posts or lines that you have written to make you seem like the worst person out there. She doesn’t have to like you. But if she seriously took the time to READ all that you write, instead of picking and choosing talking points to attack you on, it would have been a very different post. I love (why is there no sarcasm font?) how she is so quick to point out your humanity, your inadequacies (all of which you’ve admitted to freely!!!) and the sheep just seem to fall in behind her.
I’m working on a comment to leave there, but don’t think a rant will accomplish what I want to – I want it to be coherent
Sandi, you know why you do what you do. You know you’re not perfect. And you know damn well that those kids, and Brandon, are loved more than most people in the world. You’ve never tried to paint yourself as a saint, only a slightly crazed woman (like all of us) doing her best to love and care for her family.
It’s clear why she hates Dooce ($$ jealousy) but I’m not so sure why she hates YOU.
Anyway… she sucks, and you rock.
I’m sorry that you’re getting crap from someone like that. Your readers LOVE you! We out number her…just sayin’
Hell knows no furry like a scorned MOTHER……….You are an amazing parent and doing a fabulous job. GOOD for you to not let her get away talking TRASH.
You Freaking Rock! Love love love that you did that. Maybe she’ll shut her blog hole about you now.
A month or so ago I found Michele McBee’s blog when she viciously attacked a really cool blogger – I was stunned and puzzled.
You have already done a great job through this post and the comments left here on demystifying this witch.
Seeing that photo and hearing her circumstances goes a long way in satisfying my morbid curiosity of where that sort of chicken shit comes from.
Isn’t she entitled to her opinion? Threatening to show up at her house and giving her family member names is just sick. I found out about your site from hers, and came to my own conclusion. I love your site and it’s a good find. Don’t waste your time fuming over Poop!
KU- Don’t forget Michele’s hate for Mormons! If you practice that religion and blog, lookout.
I think what you are doing is great. I hope that you emerge from this as a stronger woman. I love a little snark here and there (who doesn’t?) but she obviously crosses the line. You are a nice woman who is creating a warm home for your kids.
I went over there and left a comment. Funny thing happened though. While I was digging around on Google to find the post, I was pissed. Honest anger growing. Then, as soon as I started reading the post and the comments, the anger was gone. Replaced by sadness. It made me so sad that with the finite number of minutes we sentient beings have to explore this wonderful joy of human life, people actually use them up hating! FOR FUN! HATING FOR FUN! Seriously, think about it. What did you do today? “Oh man, I had some big fun. I had great sex, went golfing, played some music, snuggled a freshly powdered baby, and wrote a bunch of HATEFUL things on the internet!” WOW! One of the saddest commentaries on the dark side of human nature I have encountered for awhile. I guess I just don’t get around enough because I was oblivious to the fact that ENTIRE websites dealing nothing but hate existed. I’m sure some anger will return, but for now just color me sad. steve
I’m not even half way done reading her blog entry and she sounds extremely uneducated. Her grammar is atrocious. I can’t even finish because it’s hurting my brain to read.
Don’t let it bother you, you’re giving those kids a great life.
My comment over there is “awaiting moderation,” so we’ll see if it ever makes the light of day, but I copied it, just in case. So here it is:
“Really, Michele? Really?
You give anonymous blogging a bad name. I blog under a pseudonym as well, but I’m not malicious enough to use it for the sole purpose of tearing down other human beings that I don’t even know. It’s disgusting, and honestly sad, that you feel the need to spend your free time hurting other people.
Is Sandi the perfect mom? No. And she has admitted that openly on her blog. But then again, mothers who only have one child aren’t the perfect mothers either. Can I, myself, imagine having as many children as Sandi does? No, I can’t and that’s MY personal choice. But Sandi can and she does.
She has a husband that supports her. She has almost-adult children who support her. She has extended family who support her. She is financially stable enough to provide for these childrens’ needs. She has opened her heart and her home to children with special needs. Her oldest son is at Tulane right now. Yeah, really looks like she messed him up, doesn’t it?
You do realize that because the majority of these children are coming to Sandi through adoption, she and her family are being investigated every single time? Declared fit every single time? It’s not an easy process to go through, but Sandi does it because she loves every single one of those kids.
I can understand why Sandi does what she does, but you? I have no explanation for. A human being so intent on sitting behind a computer screen, tearing down someone who’s building their own family and not affecting you in the slightest? Seriously, “Chicken Liver,” get a life, find some friends and find someone to hug you, because you’ve evidently got some mommy issues.”
Oh, jeez. I googled this name and found your blog. I can’t believe she attacked you too! (Actually, at first I thought YOU were the person Dooce had blogged about, but I’m relieved to see that it was the exact opposite of what I thought.) I’m sorry about my earlier comment (that was thankfully deleted). And I’m sorry you’ve been the brunt of this crazy woman’s attacks. She’s obviously a very lonely person who has insecurities that are causing her to lash out at innocent people. Don’t let it get to you!
Wow.
First…thank you for the email. I KNOW you love me. Us disagreeing on things doesn’t change that one freaking bit.
(And others here? I love this woman. She is my friend. I said it over there, I’ll say it over here. My comment was not a sign of non-support. We disagree on some things but my friendship and support are firmly in her court. She’d be there for me in a heart beat. Same goes for me.)
I was cautioning about publishing info online (it’s something I don’t do, ever.) However, I missed the whole “I’m taking her to court” thing.
(It was late. I was exhausted. How I missed it is making me scratch my head.)
So…it makes the publishing of her online info moot as there is now precedent that bloggers cannot stay anonymous during lawsuits for libel.
Court action is a really personal decision. To go down this path is so your call, babe. I know you have the resources for an endless fight and if that is the way you go, I will be here for you.
Publicly.
You know I love you. I’m your friend. I do not have your courage or backbone and right now is the most fucktastic time I have seen in years. I know you know this and I appreciate your email telling me that it is ok if I lay low in this.
No.
I won’t.
I do not have to agree 100% with you- I defend the people that I love whether we are totally in line or not. I don’t have your back bone or courage but I’m not that lame of a friend.
I wouldn’t drop the ball like that and abandon you.
So…I would do this differently but that is me. PERIOD. I wouldn’t have the emotional resources for something like this.
Good for you.
It appears that this women is spreading hate where ever she goes.
Although I wish her name was not Michelle, I’m glad you outed her.
Karma is a bitch.
Why can’t women be as laid back as men? What is this constant need to bicker and tear each other down?
It seems she snatched bits and pieces from posts (where if you don’t have the surrounding story, it’d look bad) and put them together to make you into a monster.
Any person with an ounce of sense, a smidge of an IQ, should know that’s the stupidest way to judge someone. Give me a damn break! If anyone shouldn’t procreate, it’s people like that.
No one’s flawless and taking something you deem a flaw and using it to rip the person a new one is atrocious.
Karma …
As much as I hate to see this sort of thing going on, you’re doing the right thing and taking the right approach. Take her to court. There are penalties to pay when malicious and unfounded innuendo is presented as fact. Make her pay.
What a sad and pathetic excuse for a human being. It’s people like her that make this world so sad. I didnt even bother leaving her a comment although I wanted to just lay into her, I figured she gets her kicks off of it.
The sadest part is that if she does have kids of her own, they will grow up to be just as miserable as their mother. A vicious cycle of hate.
You are a good person, who is happy with their life. Yes, we all have our shitty days and our problems. If people dont like your blog…….then dont effin read it!!! I agree with you 100%.
Have you seen Dooce’s new page, “Monetizing the Hate?” http://dooce.com/hate/ Your Michelle is all over there. Interesting.
I do have to say one good thing about CL…she introduced me to your site and I haven’t stopped reading. You are amazing!! Those kids are really blessed that they have you in their life. I hope one day I have the resources to do what you are doing. I hope you and Brandon stick together through all this blogging bullshit.
I have to say I read your blog and I don’t always agree with you, but guess what? Its your blog and your life and truly none of my business. I also have to say that I read your blog and agree with you, too. How you live your life and parent your children works for you. If you are happy and your family is happy, everyone else can love it or leave it. My blog is anonymous. Kensi is not my real name, but I am still the same respectful person I would be if we were talking face to face. I am not a coward. Apparently this woman is, like a lot of other people who hide behind their computer screens. So, if she’s reading this post and your comments: to her I say…. GROW UP, be a REAL woman. If you want to speak your mind, please do so. But do it respectfully. If you want to do something to change the world, more people are likely to listen to someone who sounds intelligent and well balanced, not a raving lunatic!
To Sandi…Stop allowing others to affect your happiness. ( I know…easier said than done…)
And also? If they have any question about your parenting? All you need to do is point to your older children, who’ve been through the roughest part of your life with you. Their successes in life are the direct result of the life and home you’ve provided for them. Rock on, Mom…
IGNORE HER, dont loose time or energy, let her keep all the shit she has inside…
HUGS from Barcelona/ Spain
Team Sandi/Dooce!
This poor, desperate, sad, lonely, pathetic, friendless, insecure, unpleasant, tactless, jealous, unsighlty woman will continue to wallow in her despair.
You are both great mothers. I’m sure you’ll use this as an opportunity to teach your children about respect.
Have I told you lately that I am totally in love with you and I think you are amazing?
I just thought I’d mention that, what with all this negative poop floating around.
Me, and many, many more like me, are huge fans of you and yours. ALL of yours.
I just don’t get why people have to put such hate out there??
I don’t know about anyone else, but I barely have time to read everyone that I like, blog, work, and do the regular mom stuff. I definently don’t waste my time and energy on anybody that I don’t like/don’t agree with.
(And I’m not talking about you, Sandi. I’m talking about She-who-shall-not-be-named.)
I left a comment on her website but it appears she won’t approve it.
I don’t “know’ this lady, just like I don’t “know” you but one thing I do “know” is that I, personally, would never want to be KNOWN for “shitting on people.”
Sandi – Found your website exactly as you describe…Googled the name from Dooce/Blurb’s “Monetizing the Hate” (brilliant, if I do say so myself)…just hope that this awful lady’s website doesn’t get lots of traffic as a result of it. I’m adding you to my daily reads. Used to be a monogamous girl – you know, Dooce only (well, Blurb too, but only when he posts Chuck photos)? But you’re kids seem amazing, and I’d like to read about amazing stuff. And look, there are lots of us Mamma’s out here who think that it’s kick ass to be able to stay home with your kids, and your nanny, and whoever…because right now? I’m working, at a job that I don’t love, wishing I had the means to stay at home with my budding offspring. So, kuddos to you. You’ve found a new internet friend.
Best Wishes, Tracy A.