This is how I found her often.
I am happy to share that, this past week, she finally realized the jungle bedding in her port-a crib wasn’t quite as cute as the gorgeous stuff in her big, roomy crib in her new room, and she made the switch!
This isn’t the best picture, but you can see, she fits much better.
In an effort to not fall into old habits of putting her to sleep in her old crib, I knew I had to take the nursery in my room down.
As happy as I was about moving her out of the nest, I was heartbroken about putting all the baby stuff away. Is this it? Are we done? Brandon and I have wandered around here all weekend asking the same question in a hundred different ways. Is Ellie the last? Are we done? Is this it?
As we carry the swing to the garage-
“Should we update our homestudy?”
As we move the rocker out of our bedroom-
“Should we make an appointment with the IVF clinic?”
As I slide the changing table down the hall to the laundry room-
“Should we wait a year and then decide?”
So, my happy weekend of spring-cleaning turned into a deep ongoing discussion about our future and when, and if, we want to add more to this family, and if so, how are they coming?
At the writing of this post, all we know is we aren’t done. There is more coming, but we don’t have a clue how or when. So for now….. I am going to enjoy having wild sex in my room without waking a baby. We’ll see how long that lasts.
Yup – moving the baby stuff out of the way is always a moment to give pause and ponder. I, for one, will be interested in continuing to read about how you will ultimately decide to add to your family and following that leg of your journey from the start.
I love Miss Ellie’s crib. How could she not love something some gorgeous and stunning?
As tough as it is when they move into their own crib, it very well could be the nesting for the next one to arrive.
The greatest thing is that you both want it and so either way, it’s going to happen.
Moving the baby stuff out and especially giving it away is what REALLY gets you another baby! We "tried" for 7 years – and when I finally gave up and gave the crib away – got pregnant the next month!
That little boy that made us wait so long doesn't want anything to do with his gorgeous NEW crib/room either. Slept in the pack&play on the side of my bed for 2 years. A few months ago we pulled the crib mattress out of his room and made a cozy corner bed on the floor in my room. Baby steps to get him out of here! Not easy is it?? Yet – he's my last, I'll bet, so it's okay.
I had a discussion about a similar situation a little while back with a friend. She asked me how you know if you are “done” having children.
My response was that if you are asking that question then you are not done. You know when you are complete.
Something tells me we will be enjoying meeting a new member of your beautiful family in the not too distant future, whichever way they arrive to join you.
Am very much looking forward to that time.
Until then, enjoy the baby free room and all that goes with it…!!!
Ugh I can feel your heart aching. I still want another one and I know that I wont be getting my wish. The hubby went and got snipped before a final decision had been made. Our “baby” is two and a half and I have baby fever soooo bad. I get sad going through the baby clothes and giving them away. Sniff and sigh, I just have to deal with it. Someday when we have a bigger house we will adopt. That couldnt be soon enough.
How well do I know the “not done” feeling! We have been aching to have another one for over a year, but circumstances, economy, living quarters, etc. have been all wrong. The itch has been hitting us really strong lately, so hopefully we’ll have a project underway sooner rather than later! Enjoy your new-found wild sex freedom – here’s hoping that it doesn’t last long at all!
Have fun, girlfriend!
her bedding is gorgeous. Enjoy that wild sex! It is always a hard question are you done?? Take it down but don’t get rid of it.
When you have these questions, do you only ask each other or do ask the rest of your children also?
What do your family members think or feel?
Putting that baby stuff away IS heartbreaking. I’m sorry. And those are big questions. (But at least her big girl crib is so beautiful-take comfort in that when you go take her out of it)…hey-have fun tonight!
Well go on and have some of that wild and crazy sex would ya!!! Oh I can understand how you don’t want this to end…I too would love to have 7 more if I could afford it. Being a mom is the best feeling ever. LOVE Miss Ellie’s new bed and bedding. I LOVE Pottery Barn and I get addicted so easily to their cute girl stuff. Glad that she finally decided the big girl crib was better and she is sleeping for you. Now go jump on ya hubby
I hate taking down cribs, baby toys and putting away little baby items…makes your arms ache for another sweet baby to snuggle to sleep!
I hope we can either get pregnant again soon or get the money to adopt. Everyone (including the kids) are wanting another addition!
I’m so thrilled that you and Brandon know you aren’t done – but I guess, now comes the really tough decision about giving IVF another shot – or adopting again.
I’m glad I’m not the only one who holds such an attachment to the baby-days. I sniff George’s baby clothes, and cry when he outgrows toys.
I want another so badly, I just wish hubby felt the same.
I did not like taking down the crib at all. Im jealous you can still have that option of more kids!!! Good luck with the bedroom activities. I cant wait for the details on those experiences!!!!!!!
My baby is 10 and I still can’t give the crip away…
wait a minute. there are 2 different cribs in these pictures….?
ok now I get it. the tan crib is the port a crib. at my house the port a crib is the mesh one that folds up. sorry.
Oh, yeah, I just had to throw in there – my kids have been campaigning really hard for a baby lately (and a puppy, and they fully expect to get both)! As long as they’re willing to scoop poop (canine AND human), I’d say we have a deal!
Familiar:
Baby legs through crib slats.
Baby’s nursery being part of MY room.
Never so sure about “being done”
Not Familiar:
ADORABLE Pottery Barn bedding!
Wild sex in my room sans baby!
Ah. I cried until my eyes swelled when we took our crib down. I don’t think a woman is ever ready to be “done” having babies. Not one who love loves being a mama.
Loved this post!
It took me a long, long time to get rid of my crib. Even though we were done (Mike had a vasectomy right after Skyler was born) giving all my baby stuff away felt too final. I always kind of think people just KNOW when their family is complete, I’m glad you guys are keeping your options open, you know, just in case.
I never wanted to grow up and be someone who said “I wish I could/would have had more kids.”
I will never say that. I am DONE!(before the hyster) I was DONE! When they started coming in pairs…I was DONE! I also NEVER thought I would say “I am done.” but when you are you know it, you don’t regret it and don’t have to ask…(like Kerrie said in her comment).
I/we are complete! It is a good feeling and I can’t wait to be a gma…not too soon though, don’t get me wrong!!!