Comments on: REAL http://luckythirteenandcounting.com/2008/12/real.html my adventures in a second marriage and raising 14 kids. Just another R rated mommy blog! Fri, 06 Aug 2010 14:45:55 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Angela http://luckythirteenandcounting.com/2008/12/real.html/comment-page-1#comment-528 Angela Tue, 09 Dec 2008 03:32:00 +0000 http://luckythirteenandcounting.com/?p=168#comment-528 I think it's so important to be "real" not only for others but especially for yourself!! Dealing with my crazy year has made me take a long, hard look at myself and has forced me to be real. I can't pretend to be happy that my son has Down syndrome. I love him dearly and am happy to have him. But I do not like the cards he has been dealt. It drives me nuts when other moms say it's the greatest blessing. I can see what they're saying, that through the experience, they have grown and changed, etc. I have, too, in these short (and loooooong) seven months. I am a different person now b/c of it. I am closer to my family and to my God. But if I could wish it away, I would in a heartbeat.<br/>Yesterday, I was watching as my husband was brushing our 2 1/2 year old's teeth before bed. Somehow driving a car came up, as it often does with a toddler boy. I said, "Andrew, one day you'll be a bigger boy and you'll be able to drive a car." His face lit up and you could tell he was thinking about this. And he said, "And Benjamin, too!" And I just started crying, knowing that Benjamin most likely will not drive. And it Just. Isn't. Fair. I can't pretend to be okay with all this. Not yet anyway. It's all too fresh.<br/>GOSH I rambled. LOL<br/>I've got to get some sleep! I think it’s so important to be “real” not only for others but especially for yourself!! Dealing with my crazy year has made me take a long, hard look at myself and has forced me to be real. I can’t pretend to be happy that my son has Down syndrome. I love him dearly and am happy to have him. But I do not like the cards he has been dealt. It drives me nuts when other moms say it’s the greatest blessing. I can see what they’re saying, that through the experience, they have grown and changed, etc. I have, too, in these short (and loooooong) seven months. I am a different person now b/c of it. I am closer to my family and to my God. But if I could wish it away, I would in a heartbeat.
Yesterday, I was watching as my husband was brushing our 2 1/2 year old’s teeth before bed. Somehow driving a car came up, as it often does with a toddler boy. I said, “Andrew, one day you’ll be a bigger boy and you’ll be able to drive a car.” His face lit up and you could tell he was thinking about this. And he said, “And Benjamin, too!” And I just started crying, knowing that Benjamin most likely will not drive. And it Just. Isn’t. Fair. I can’t pretend to be okay with all this. Not yet anyway. It’s all too fresh.
GOSH I rambled. LOL
I’ve got to get some sleep!

]]> By: Kimberley http://luckythirteenandcounting.com/2008/12/real.html/comment-page-1#comment-484 Kimberley Thu, 04 Dec 2008 12:53:00 +0000 http://luckythirteenandcounting.com/?p=168#comment-484 Well I don't think you're a car-crash my dear! (I guess its possible that is because I am one too, but we won't go there!)<br/><br/>For me, "real" is about just writing what you need to write about - not being obsessed with what other people want to hear about or see, but talking about the things that affect your daily life, and things that happen to be on your mind.<br/><br/>I really dislike blogs that seem entirely focussed on gaining more followers, or writing FOR the followers and not for themselves.<br/><br/>Know what I mean?<br/>xxxx Well I don’t think you’re a car-crash my dear! (I guess its possible that is because I am one too, but we won’t go there!)

For me, “real” is about just writing what you need to write about – not being obsessed with what other people want to hear about or see, but talking about the things that affect your daily life, and things that happen to be on your mind.

I really dislike blogs that seem entirely focussed on gaining more followers, or writing FOR the followers and not for themselves.

Know what I mean?
xxxx

]]> By: b luis grey http://luckythirteenandcounting.com/2008/12/real.html/comment-page-1#comment-483 b luis grey Thu, 04 Dec 2008 08:06:00 +0000 http://luckythirteenandcounting.com/?p=168#comment-483 Your more than just real Sandi. In the words of the famous Warren G... "Your cooh"! Okay, Okay. He didn't say you but none-the-less. Happy blogging. Your more than just real Sandi. In the words of the famous Warren G… “Your cooh”! Okay, Okay. He didn’t say you but none-the-less. Happy blogging.

]]> By: Mhea http://luckythirteenandcounting.com/2008/12/real.html/comment-page-1#comment-482 Mhea Thu, 04 Dec 2008 00:52:00 +0000 http://luckythirteenandcounting.com/?p=168#comment-482 I love your blog!! so real.. I don't think I have the guts to get as real as you are! I'm so amazed! Keep it coming :D I love your blog!! so real.. I don’t think I have the guts to get as real as you are! I’m so amazed! Keep it coming :D

]]> By: Kristen http://luckythirteenandcounting.com/2008/12/real.html/comment-page-1#comment-481 Kristen Thu, 04 Dec 2008 00:35:00 +0000 http://luckythirteenandcounting.com/?p=168#comment-481 Sandi - you are real. I love your ability to be real. It doesn't make you a train wreck, it just makes you honest. And heaven knows we all could use a lot more honesty these days - we've had enough of the fake crap! Keep 'em coming girl! Sandi – you are real. I love your ability to be real. It doesn’t make you a train wreck, it just makes you honest. And heaven knows we all could use a lot more honesty these days – we’ve had enough of the fake crap! Keep ‘em coming girl!

]]> By: nikkicrumpet http://luckythirteenandcounting.com/2008/12/real.html/comment-page-1#comment-480 nikkicrumpet Thu, 04 Dec 2008 00:17:00 +0000 http://luckythirteenandcounting.com/?p=168#comment-480 I'm laughing...you are so not a train wreck! I don't know how you do it...and I stand in awe that you can remain even semi-sane with your life. But you are certainly not a wreck! Maybe we partly come to see if today will be the day you finally flip out lol...and no one would blame you! We'll just come over to help bring you down off the ceiling and give you a big hug...oh and watch the kids for awhile so you can take a bubble bath! I’m laughing…you are so not a train wreck! I don’t know how you do it…and I stand in awe that you can remain even semi-sane with your life. But you are certainly not a wreck! Maybe we partly come to see if today will be the day you finally flip out lol…and no one would blame you! We’ll just come over to help bring you down off the ceiling and give you a big hug…oh and watch the kids for awhile so you can take a bubble bath!

]]> By: blessedserenity http://luckythirteenandcounting.com/2008/12/real.html/comment-page-1#comment-479 blessedserenity Wed, 03 Dec 2008 21:34:00 +0000 http://luckythirteenandcounting.com/?p=168#comment-479 Sometimes people are afriad. I mean after all, the big bad internet might receognize them in their supposidly annoymous blogs.<br/>Wow, that was all spelled really bad. :P<br/>Seriously though, people are just afria.d Me i dont hide anything... no reason to, it all makes me me. :D Sometimes people are afriad. I mean after all, the big bad internet might receognize them in their supposidly annoymous blogs.
Wow, that was all spelled really bad. :P
Seriously though, people are just afria.d Me i dont hide anything… no reason to, it all makes me me. :D

]]> By: The Monier Family http://luckythirteenandcounting.com/2008/12/real.html/comment-page-1#comment-478 The Monier Family Wed, 03 Dec 2008 21:06:00 +0000 http://luckythirteenandcounting.com/?p=168#comment-478 I read because I *wish* I had the guts to have a house full of kiddos:)<br/>Also, it's interesting to see how other people live. <br/>Take care:)<br/>p.s. I am on Facebook, too and would love to add you.<br/>My full name is Jenny Allerton Monier- look me up! I read because I *wish* I had the guts to have a house full of kiddos:)
Also, it’s interesting to see how other people live.
Take care:)
p.s. I am on Facebook, too and would love to add you.
My full name is Jenny Allerton Monier- look me up!

]]> By: gina http://luckythirteenandcounting.com/2008/12/real.html/comment-page-1#comment-477 gina Wed, 03 Dec 2008 21:00:00 +0000 http://luckythirteenandcounting.com/?p=168#comment-477 Okay - I'm going to be REAL too... You just wait. There is a lot of stuff I'm dying to say. <br/><br/>I hate the comment "just be happy" also. Obviously, those people haven't had their HARD times yet. They will. One way or another, we all get our turn. Or turns. Welcome to life. Okay – I’m going to be REAL too… You just wait. There is a lot of stuff I’m dying to say.

I hate the comment “just be happy” also. Obviously, those people haven’t had their HARD times yet. They will. One way or another, we all get our turn. Or turns. Welcome to life.

]]> By: Liz http://luckythirteenandcounting.com/2008/12/real.html/comment-page-1#comment-476 Liz Wed, 03 Dec 2008 17:13:00 +0000 http://luckythirteenandcounting.com/?p=168#comment-476 Just stumbled onto your blog this morning, I greatly appreciate your honesty. And you do have some fabulous kids. :) Just stumbled onto your blog this morning, I greatly appreciate your honesty. And you do have some fabulous kids. :)

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